Things you should never tolerate in a relationship
Relationships must add value and bring out the best in everyone involved. But as humans, we will always have conflicts because of our differences. That’s why when we enter into relationships, we look for people with whom we have things in common.
The more similar we are in our beliefs, attitudes, and interests, the less conflict we will have.
But sometimes our differences aren’t immediately apparent until we get into the relationship. We go too deep before we realize how different we are and how little we have in common. Sometimes the differences are very obvious, and sometimes not.
It is possible to exist with differences and not have problems as long as they are acceptable and need no solution.
We resolve any differences that do not cause problems through compromise. A disagreement here or an argument there is not enough to end a relationship.
So what should end a relationship?
Well, here are some things you want to think about and be aware of. They are some of the things you should never tolerate in a relationship.
A lack of compromise
When you put in more than you get back from the relationship. You agree to things, but you are never happy with the outcome. If you are never satisfied with the compromises you make, maybe you submit and don’t compromise.
In a compromise, everyone involved must have a certain satisfaction.
You should be fine with the outcome. You don’t necessarily have to be happy, but you shouldn’t be sad or feel cheated.
Any kind of abuse
You should never tolerate any kind of abuse in a relationship, be it physical, emotional or mental abuse. As soon as you recognize signs of abuse, walk away as quickly as possible and don’t look back.
It doesn’t matter how much you’ve invested in the relationship or how much you stick to them.
Abuse can get very shady and cost you dearly, so get out of it as soon as possible. It’s not worth lingering and hoping things change.
Jealousy in a partnership is a sign of mistrust and insecurity. If you’re in a relationship and the person you’re with is showing signs of jealousy or obsession, get out of there quickly.
Jealousy and obsession can quickly turn into something much more sinister. It is a destructive emotion that can suck the life out of a happy relationship.
It’s very unhealthy to be in a relationship where everything you do is viewed through the lens of suspicion and insecurity.
Even if it comes across as a disrespectful joke or concern, no one should be ashamed of you, especially your partner.
Every person’s body is different, and if someone is dating you, they should bolster your body image.
Instead of making you feel insecure about it. Respect is fundamental in relationships. Body shaming shows a lack of respect, and humiliating someone about their physical appearance is a form of abuse.
Cheating damages trust. Once the trust is broken, it is not easy to maintain a happy, positive relationship with that person in the future. There will always be concerns about how you are valued.
It breaks your self-confidence and makes you doubt your self-worth. If you have standards and value your self worth, infidelity is not something you should tolerate.
When you enter into a relationship, you expect to be treated with dignity and respect. Cheating takes all that away from you.
They want to make all the decisions for you. Deciding that they know exactly how you feel about things without asking you, or that they don’t respect your boundaries — want you to do things their way, even if you make your wants and desires known.
They think they know what’s best for you and demand things from you that go against what you want.
If your partner is dominant, do something about it.
Belittling your goals and ambitions
No one should ever feel that their goals don’t matter or that they won’t achieve them. Your partner should be nothing less than supportive and understanding.
They should do everything they can to support what you want to achieve in life. If they think their goals are superior or more important than yours, then you’re not in the right relationship.
As another form of abuse, gaslighting often occurs in toxic relationships. It leaves a sense of trauma even after the relationship is over. You will be scrutinized as they manipulate things in their favor.
Or when their narcissism makes you believe you’re always wrong.
If your partner is your gaslight, you should never tolerate this, no matter how much you love them. A healthy relationship doesn’t hurt.
Hide you from their loved ones
When someone goes out of their way to hide from their loved ones, it’s a huge red flag. They may have something to hide and not be completely honest with you about their lives.
Keeping your secret if you don’t want to be a secret can also be a sign that they are ashamed or embarrassed of you.
There’s no reason you should be a secret to their friends and family, especially if you’re already in a relationship and past the dating stage.
Not acknowledging your feelings
Even if your emotions and expressions aren’t always appropriate or appropriate for the moment, your partner needs to acknowledge them. They should accept how you feel and be supportive.
If they have any concerns, questions, or concerns, you can discuss them later. Your feelings are valid, and there’s a reason for that.
A good relationship should respect individual personalities and leave room for your character to grow. Try not to hinder your growth. You must be able to express your feelings freely.
Not listening or constantly interrupting you
They can hear you, but they don’t listen to the words you say. Or they interrupt you and talk over you when you say something – refusing to connect with what you’re saying or seeming disinterested.
If someone makes you feel like you’re not worth a second of their time to listen to you, you need someone to listen to you. It’s time to move on.